Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Unexpected love

If you asked me a year ago if i had a boyfriend i would have said no. If you were to ask me what i was looking for in a guy i would have said a christian man who ha a good paying steady job, who can make me laugh, likes to cuddle and watch movies together. Someone who is willing to wait until we're maried to have sex. Someone sweet and caring and ambitious. Someone who likes to travel, someone whose past relationships are just that, in the past. About 8 months ago something unexpected happened. Someone i knew from 10 years ago asked me on a date and i said yes of course. We went to dinner at a nice restaurant where they messed up our orders, but we didn't care. We got on like we've been friends for years, which we kind of have been just lost touch and went our seperate ways in life. He got married at 21 and seperated a few years later. I stayed single, finished high school, stayed around family, got a job and still live at home with my parents.  He was a sign language interpreter, had his own apartment in the downtown area of a historical city, He didn't have a car, but he lived 2 blocks from the marc station which he used to get to work. He lives kinda far so we only get to see each other on the weekends. He's sweet and caring and loving. He's affectionate and I fell hard and fast. We made out on the first date and had sex by the fourth. He loves to cuddle and watch movies, his job paid very well. However there are things about him that i never expected i would ever "deal with" when it came to having a relationship with someone. He never divorced his "x-wife" after they seperated over 5 years ago. His apartment ended up having some plumbing problems and his landlord was neglectful and cheap in trying to get it fixed, so he had to move out and fast. Now he is living 30 min. farther away with a 40 year old man his mid life crisis 24 yr old girlfriend, his 18yr old son, and her 3 kids form 3 different fathers. Since he interpreted for the schools, summer came and he had no income anymore....He never tried to get a part time job temporarily, beacause he would have to work weekends and would never see me. I never saw myself having a broke-ass boyfriend without a car. Why do i put up with it all? Because he's the only guy to ever ask me out. He loves me. He never asks me for anything. He cares about me. I trust him, and all the wonderful things i mentioned about him earlier are why I drive an hour and a half to see him every Saturday. I know people think i'm crazy or stupid, but theres just this hope inside me thta things have to get better with his career and with the living situation. He will get his divorce and then we can move forward with our relationship without any obstacles in the way.

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